Anger can be a strong emotion that’s hard to control. When we get angry it usually takes us over, and we react in ways that we end up regretting. But there are some powerful ways to be able to deal with anger. Here’s how …
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Anger is a strong emotion that’s generally hard to control. And usually, when it comes it takes us over and we end up reacting in ways that we’ll regret later. The nice thing is The Art of Living Foundation has some very powerful meditation techniques that can help us deal with negative emotions. I had done this retreat program called The Art of Silence Retreat Program which teaches meditation techniques on how to deal with these negative emotions in very effective ways.
I’ll give you a little understanding of how this works. If you notice every negative emotion or every emotion for that matter has a specific sensation in the body. For example, when we get angry, you’ll notice there’s a throbbing sensation in the forehead. There is some sensation in between the eyebrows or when we feel sad, the sensation is in the throat. Sadness and grief happen in the throat. We cannot speak when we’re very sad or when we are in grief. And even a positive emotion like gratitude happens in the throat. When you’re very grateful also you may notice that the sensation is very similar to sadness in the sense that you cannot speak, and you choke up.
So every emotion has a specific sensation in the body. But the beauty is, by observing the sensation that’s happening in the body, we have the ability to transform the emotions. And that’s the meditation technique that we teach in the Art of Silence Retreats. I’ll tell you a little story of how this helped me. Me and my wife moved to the Boston area about three and a half years back and we were very new to the area and we didn’t know the way around the place without a G.P.S. And even with a G.P.S. those of you who know Boston it can be hard to get around.
I was actually teaching a meditation workshop which was about an hour and 20/25 minutes away from the place where we live. So, I told my wife that I need to leave early enough to make it to the venue on time. My wife said she will come with me so she can give me directions. So, we left about an hour and 45 minutes before the workshop started. And she was sitting in the passenger seat and giving me directions. And she has a habit of turning the sound off on the on the G.P.S. on her phone since it gives a lot of instructions otherwise. And she was looking at the phone and giving me directions.
And we started driving, we got onto the highway, we were driving on 95. And after driving about 20 minutes my wife looks at the phone and she realizes that we are driving in the wrong direction on 95. And the moment she told that to me I realized that now it would take us another 20 minutes just to drive back to the point where we started and another hour and 15 minutes just to get to the venue. At that moment I realized there’s no way that I’m going to make it in time for the workshop. And as an instructor, I don’t want to be late.
So at that moment what do you think happened? It was just a surge of anger that came up at that moment and, instead of speaking to my wife at that moment I just started paying attention to the sensation of the anger itself. And as I was driving, I was paying attention to the sensation and within a minute or two the anger subsided. It was still there but it had become significantly mild.
And it’s only then that I started speaking and I was trying to figure out a way how to inform the participants that I was going to be late and so on. But if I had not done that, if I had not had these tools, I would have reacted in ways that would have made my wife upset. I was upset already and I would have made my wife upset, and we would have been late and upset. We were very late in the end but at least we were not upset and late.
That made a big difference in how handling our negative emotions can, handling the anger can make a difference in those kinds of situations. So, the meditation techniques, many of you have heard about meditation but it can be a very, very powerful technique to be able to handle our anger and negative emotions. It took me a few Art of Silence courses after I did that that it started becoming second nature to observe the sensations that’s happening in my body.
But you can try it out. If after doing a few Art of Silence retreats, you’ll notice that it becomes your second nature to observe the sensations when you go through different emotions. And you’ll have the skill and the ability to transform your anger and negative emotions and diffuse them rather than end up reacting to them. That’s the power of some of these meditation techniques that the Art of Living Foundation teaches.
You know initially our emotions can be like drawing a line on a rock. It stays. It’s hard to erase a line on a rock and emotions are like that. When we go through unpleasant events it makes an impact in our mind and we end up reacting in those kinds of situations. But over time you’ll notice with the regular practice of meditation you’ll notice that the emotion becomes like a line on the sand. When you draw a line on the sand it’s fairly easy to erase the line and emotions becomes like that. And with even more practice you’ll notice that our emotions become like a line on the water. You draw a line on the water, and it disappears within a few seconds. So, emotions are very natural for us, for human beings to have, but the ability to handle them, the ability to deal with them, the skill to deal with them comes with regular practice of meditation.
So check out The Art of Silence Retreat. It’s a fantastic program to be able to give you the skills to handle your anger and negative emotions.
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